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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want to stay married to him, I would seek resources to help you navigate your relationship with him.

I'm not sure why people are being so cruel to you - they seem to be projecting a great deal. I don't see anywhere in your post that you're trying to change him, and if he does indeed have an autism spectrum disorder then you won't be able to.

What attracted you to him in the beginning of your relationship? When did things start to become more difficult?
If he does have an ASD then he was the same person before you married, but I'm sure the stress of children and family life has impacted him.

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He was kind, interesting, and gave a lot of quality time when dating. Married life is not dating life of course. Things change.... you talk about schedules, you socialize with your spouse with others more, you argue more due to life's new stresses, communication becomes more important because your conversations are no longer mainly about where to go grab drinks at. Because of these changes there are certain aspects of my spouses personality that are more exposed that when dating. Things became most difficult after kids. He is overwhelmed, and frankly as a result so am I.[/quote]

No kidding things change.  You sound very naive.  People's key personality traits don't change with marriage and don't morph into autism.

Is your friend by any by any chance a social worker at a SN school?  If so, she makes it a hobby to diagnose spouses.[/quote]

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