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[quote=Anonymous]My brother is nearly incapable of caring for himself mainly due to severe depression. He’s 4 years younger than me, and I fully commiserate with the feeling that he is a hot mess that I will inherit. I’ve asked my parents to set aside money in trust for his care, and they have done so. Beyond that, I’m not sure what can be done. He lives in such a remote place that I can’t imagine being able to hire someone for home nursing visits, house/yard cleaning etc.

My brother’s house is wall-to-wall filled with junk: the counters & floors are filthy, animal feces in many rooms, mouse/ termite & wasp infestations in various places, rusting objects outside. My father & I once cleared out one level (20+ trips to the dump with a small trailer filled with trash bags each time) of his house. Within a week, he had begun hoarding again.

In my case, my brother is a really sweet guy, but he smokes heavily, has a severe hoarding problem, is addicted to painkillers, and has resisted any efforts to get counseling. You can’t make a person get therapy, you can’t make them keep their living quarters reasonably sanitary - they have to want it. I feel horrible for him and for saying this, but I hope he dies well before old age sets in. [/quote]

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