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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you are just easier for DD to use than trying to vett a sitter, and there is an initial mental hurdle to get over when hiring one's first sitter.  It's that "stranger watching my kid" hurdle. Your DD has to get over it, and you need to help her.

You HAVE to become unavailable for one event, and force them to either sit at home or hire a sitter.  It is the ONLY way to get her to step up; she must sit through a consequence.

Now this particular event might be too important for you to start with, but get to work on doing this for the next event.

On a parallel track, go FIND someone FOR your DD.  (Normally that's way too overparenting of you, but in this situation, it's a good move).  So what you are doing then is handing her back her problem (I can't babysit) but with the other hand, offering her a ready-made vetted solution ("Larla is an experienced sitter that so-and-so has used for years; she is fabulous and trustworthy").  It makes it easy for your DD to move in that direction.

If DD doesn't go for Larla, then you MUST have other plans and not cave in.  Then when she asks again, you MUST have an excuse to not do it (a scheduling conflict) but re-propose Larla.[/quote]

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