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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a divorce lawyer, if I can offer you advice, it is to get something down on paper acknowledging your contributions to your husband's career and your entitlement to half of his earnings. Even just a one-pager, signed by both of you, that states that (1) the consideration is maintaining a flexible job and passing up promotions in order to facilitate your family life and enable your husband to devote himself fully to his career and meet his job requirements, and (2) you are entitled to half of his earnings, pension, any other income for 15-20 years after a divorce.

[b]You are the exact kind of woman ends up living in poverty in old age after a divorce.[/b] Current divorce laws will not compensate you for the loss and earnings and retirement savings and career development, so you are a sitting duck if your husband ever leaves.[/quote]

I would think her ability to do this might depend on how much he recognizes her sacrifice now. Otherwise, proposing this could seem threatening or even hostile. Not to say it's invalid, just suggesting some tact is necessary to raise this.[/quote]PP lawyer. Obviously, she has to tailor her approach to her husband. The fact remains, however, that women like OP are the most vulnerable in divorce. The fact that she is working will mean she gets very little, if any alimony and will make her less likely to get full custody, [b]which means she might even owe some child support[/b]. At the same time, the concessions she has made during her career will make it hard for her to ramp up to the degree she needs to in order to earn enough for a comfortable retirement.

Women in OP's position never listen to this kind of advice, opting instead not to rock the boat. Meanwhile, their unpaid contributions help their husbands grow highly lucrative careers while the market value of the women themselves continues to plummet. [/quote]

She's making $100K now and per the OP will be up to $150K with the $5K per year raises, she will hardly end up in poverty.  Assuming there is enough income differential between OP and her husband to make your suggested approach worth pursuing it is highly unlikely OP would owe child support in any type of shared custody situation because in many states the guidelines allocate the amount of child support by both the % of physical custody and pro rata by income.[/quote]

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