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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am just amazed how easy it is for most of you posters to expect OP -- the woman -- to "understand how seriously her DH feels about this topic;" to avoid this topic in the future;"  to "regulate her own behavior;" and to "applaud" her husband's entitled and self-centered behavior. How lucky he is to have a wife that didn't stalk off herself "to give herself the space and time to "cool down" leaving the two kids behind. Was it simply that he beat her to the punch on that.

How sexist many of you are to expect OP to tolerate the childish, selfish and inconsiderate behavior. So, OP doesn't need time to compose herself after an upsetting exchange? Why does OP's husband get time to do that? I can't figure out some of the poster's expectations here. Is the woman always supposed to be the peacemaker, the shit-taker, and the one left holding the bag? Please explain!

Who said she "picked the fight?" Nowhere in her original post does it say that she initiate the fight, perpetuated the fight, or refused to relinquish the fight. Why are posters making this assumption? Sexist again, maybe? So, could it be that the assumption is that women are irrational, melodramatic, and emotional? Hmmm. Need to check that.

Lastly, isn't responsibility for the kids' welfare and emotions something that should be shared equally between partners? So, who had to manage the kids' emotions and feelings following the dad's walk-off? OP? How is that fair? So, OP has to either make something up to keep her kids' view of their dad intact (Oh, daddy had something important to do! otherwise, he would be right here with you!) or tell the truth (Sometimes grown-ups get into disagreements...). Why does OP's husband not have to share in this parenting obligation. Oh! That's right! He's home nursing his wounds and getting his head in the right place. And where is OP? Managing the kids, dealing with her own emotions, and parenting alone.

Please stop making excuses for OP's husband, blaming OP for her feelings, and expecting her to be the grown-up here. Her husband has just as much a responsibility for their welfare as OP, and he should not have stalked off like a child. Get real, folks![/quote]

Cut the shit lady. Yes, she needs to stop it. Hopefully someone is telling her DH the same thing but who cares? She needs to grow up and act like a respectable human being acts and that has nothing to do with how anyone else is acting - just her. 
Adulthood is not about 'fair' and 'keeping score'.  How old are you - 15? [/quote]

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