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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I empathize with your post, and with the reactions you are getting here.  I have a son who periodically raises similar concerns w/ us and I get similar responses here.

I think the fact that your son consistently does so well academically tells you a great deal.

I would start w/ the absolute basics - try to get more sleep into his schedule, maybe some more physical burn time when he gets home from school, and check his diet.  Truly - the basics.  Run him hard, feed him well and put him to bed early.  If some of his behavior is the result of acclimating to a newly rigorous school year those things would help.

I also think talking w/ a very skilled child therapist would help too.  We have done that and it's great to talk to someone very skilled in the age range who can simultaneously tell us that our son NT and has no signs of anything diagnosable, but who also has the ability to recommend specific coping mechanisms, parenting approaches, self-soothing/emotional regulation skills for the child, etc...

I would also say that you might find Ross Greene's work useful.   www.livesinthebalance.org

And you might look back at your history here and note the cycles and patterns.  I find that when I'm dealing w/ some sort of behavioral nightmare it is comforting to look back and realize that for my child there is a pattern of a few months of incredible challenge, followed by an amazing leap in emotional/intellectual/physical development.  Things settle down and we think we're past the difficulties and then a year or 18 months (or sometimes less) we hit another rough spot.  Being able to see that those periods do come to an end offers great help when we're in the trenches.

Perhaps your son is old enough for some yoga or meditation or mindfulness activities?  I'm trying that w/ mine (and for myself) and there is great help in those approaches for the whole family.

Hang in there.  It will be ok and you are doing a great job as a parent.  Good luck![/quote]

+1. Agree with this PP that the fact your child is doing well in school tells you a lot and that it's very reassuring. Would add that it's possible something that is going on at home is reinforcing the meltdowns. You may be able to fix it with something as simple as 1-2-3 Magic or other technique. Also can't emphasize enough how important sleep can be. Make sure your child is getting the recommended hours and if he has trouble getting to sleep consider melatonin. Worked wonders for a child I know.[/quote]

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