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[quote=Anonymous]There needs to be some flexibility on both parts, and your DH needs to stand up for his child and talk to his family. He should also not be abandoning you to go eat with his parents for every meal! I would be upset about that.

My parents are divorced and it's two totally separate experiences.  When we visit my mom and her family, they completely adapt to our schedule. She wants to wake up early to play with the kids and cook them breakfast at 7am (while I sleep in!) and go on outings with us. My dad and his family are totally different. They would never wake up early, and also eat a late breakfast and a very late dinner. They want us to bring the kids, but won't adjust their schedule. We keep the kids more or less on their resale schedule.  So we do our own thing and see them a little here and there. Guess who we visit more often?? Now that the kids are older, they have a much closer relationship with my mom and my ILs than my dad.

Can your DH talk to them about this? Maybe one of the days they could have some cereal when they get up and you can all go out to lunch at noon when the baby is up from his nap. 5pm dinner is pretty tough for adults, but he could suggest that you all eat dinner at home one night, you can feed the baby at 5 and then you and DH eat when he is in bed. You can do what you can to adjust the baby's sleep schedule a little here or there. My son was a total mess when he was overtired and off his schedule, may daughter was/is generally ok if she missed a nap or was up late.

The baby stage passes quickly, but toddles still need a nap and my 5yo wakes up at 6:30 and needs breakfast soon after. If you don't work out some kind of arrangement now, it's going to be a looong haul. Fewer trips to go see them. [/quote]

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