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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your issue is that she is undermining you.  You need tom confront her on that.  Yes she wants to make the kids happy all the time, but you need to make her see that she is doing it at your expense.  If she cant respect your parenting, you will have to take whatever steps you think necessary to get what you want.. . or agree to sit by and let it happen.[/quote]

Op here, yes you are right.  That is exactly the problem.  It's not about the fact that she bought him a toy, it's that she does it even though I have asker her not to do that right before holidays.  She constantly ignores my wishes if it means that the kids will see her as supergrandma.  She completely disregards my wishes if it doesn't suit her--she does the same with my brother so it's not just me.  What she doesn't realize is that she is hurting her relationship with her own child and causing trouble between me and my kid.  And that's what irritates me the most.  And she doesn't seem to understand.  Then she goes into this whole "no one likes me and I always screw up and it's so hard to be me" act and I'm so freaking sick of it.

When we had a similar issue last year, I did take the toy away.  Didn't seem to make a difference but that was a year ago.

I have talked to her about this time and time again.  I just don't know what else I can do.  I've tried yelling, asking politely, shutting her out, I don't know how else to deal with it.  I don't want to (and don't have time to) monitor her every minute with the children.  She's an adult--I want her to act like one.[/quote]

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