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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There will be people who will say it should be fine as long as he is faithful to you (or to however you arrange your relationship). There are certainly "bi" men and there are certainly those who are attracted to both genders who faithfully enter a long term relationship with women.

But truth be told, I'd still be highly skeptical. My gay friends all say the same. The number of "bi" men is grossly inflated by those who are genuinely gay but who, for whatever reasons, still want to be with a woman but still try to sleep around on the sly and call themselves bisexual, and the handful of men who are genuinely bi almost always dump their gay lovers for a woman in the long run (the call for a family and children and cultural norms is just to strong). A man who came out to me as bisexual at the onset of a relationship is only sending major red flags. He might try to justify it as being honest and truthful, but there's a time for truth and there's a time for secrets and if I were bisexual I wouldn't confess to past relationships with men until I was well into the relationship and had proven my loyalties.

[/quote] 8 months is well into a relationship and has proven loyalties.  Because if they were in a relationship for 2 years, talking marriage, then he drops this bomb on her, or it's mentioned somehow by a family member, or friend, she would then feel that he wasn't honest with her for so long.  I think 3-5 months is too early to share that kind of news, but 6+ months in, the relationship is on the serious side, so his timing and their conversation makes sense to me.  Also, like you said, if he is truly bi, he did dump his bi/gay male lover and ended up pursuing relationships with women after which indicated bi to me.[/quote]

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