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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it's perfectly natural to feel flattered when an attractive woman flirts with you, or even to fantasize about her a bit - especially when you're stressed by your daily grind of work and family and need a diversion.

Do you have anxiety or OCD? I ask this because you seem to be tormenting yourself with guilt (to the extent you're losing weight - that's pretty extreme). You need to dial it way back in yourself and put things in perspective, stat.

First of all, you are quick to demonize yourself but you're giving this colleague a lot of credit - or at least downplaying her culpability (i.e making it sound like it was a "throw-away" comment on her part or that she looks upon you with "pity" - that's distorted thinking in your part).

She has initiated this, and behaved inappropriately. She asked for your number, and texted you - and I imagine with just a little encouragement from you it could escalate. Of course you're flattered - you're human. But you need to stop idealizing her and crapping on yourself.

It's a crush, and it happens, especially when we're vulnerable to it. Just treat it like any other crush, and try to reconnect with your wife and figure out where this void is coming from that's making you vulnerable.  Stop being so hard on 
yourself.

She's not the innocent party here, OP.

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