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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. The crisis began career-related, questioning/dissatisfaction new job and has resulted in significant anxiety/upset/regret about past career decisions and future potential. This bit, which was more like a week of disappointment/minor depression, was compounded exponentially by an incredibly damaging way of dealing with that anxiety. All came crashing down one day, hence the scary messages. Now there is both the career anxiety and the damage from attempted distraction.

Apparently the depth of despair is a one-time, never happened before thing. The coping mechanism for dealing with the anxiety, however, has been an on going problem. [/quote]

You could have said tthis in the beginning when people asked rather than saying you didn't want to post details.  This is essentially the detail people asked about.  Nobody is being nosy, you ask for help and then are vague to the point of trying to leave out gender.  It's a little annoying.  I disagree with a PP, I don't think you sound all that nice.

How can you not know someone you dated for several months?  He/she basically showed you what they wanted.  I think you come across as rather difficult.[/quote]

NP reading thread, and this "detail" you craved did exactly what OP thought it would, which is add nothing to the conversation and the question at hand. Your response is ridiculous.

OP, one suggestion not yet suggested is to ask your friend how you should respond. "I want to do what you need - what do you need from me, if anything?" and let them tell your in no uncertain terms how they'd like to be supported rather than guessing. That way you'll be on surer footing and you can be as transparent in your motives as you need to be as well.

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