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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am a Hospice Chaplain. I also lost my best friend to cancer six years ago. What I have learned from my grief experience and from the hundreds of people I have walked the grief path with is this - You never get passed the death of someone you care about.  Think of a beautiful tea pot. One that has great sentimental value to you. One day you accidentally knock it off the shelf while dusting. It cracks. You are devastated. You take it an expert repair person and he does a perfect job with the repair.  You still love the teapot. It's still beautiful. It still holds that same value in your heart. But it's different now. That crack, though carefully hidden and faded, will always be there. For a long time every time you look at the teapot, you see the crack and it hurts. Eventually you realize you aren't seeing the crack as often. That's how our grief works. We are forever changed by the pain of loss. But eventually we move past the pain into a place of acceptance.

A grief counselor could help you on the journey. The only way to heal is to move through the grief. If you try to rush through it or try to skip any of the grief work, you'll find yourself thrown right back into it over and over again. I'm sorry you are hurting. I know how awful it feels. You will heal. But just like the teapot, you are forever changed. [/quote]

NP.  And now I'm tearing up....this is a beautiful analogy. [/quote]

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