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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]THese posts are making me sad! My 7 year old DD was just diagnosed with ADHD combined and I'm beginning to understand why she has so much trouble making friends. Just went to a class playdate and she was the one fighting, running away, or hiding. I keep hoping she would grow out of it, but its clear now she will face so many challenges, and I'm sad about it. How did you other moms adjust after the diagnosis? What keeps you going? Not only is she isolated, but its hard for me to be friends with the other moms because everyone knows I'm "that kid's" mom. I am becoming socially isolated, too. Which amplifies the bad feelings.[/quote]

OP here--

1. For yourself, learn to be neutral and pragmatic about helping your DD.  I can get into this "black and white thinking where my son is the victim or he is the problem. After years of working with the school and classroom observations it is rarely one or the other. When I get upset, it feels overwhelming and sad.

2. Remember that your DD won't always be where she is now. When my son was in preschool he became highly aggressive at home--hitting, biting, urinating on the floor in a rage, throwing toys at walls and people. He refused timeouts and would tear his room apart, and responded to reward systems for only about 48 hours. I developed chronic anxiety as a result of this bombardment- and had visions of being physically attacked when he became a teen.

Guess what? He hasn't lashed out like that in many years- in fact, the other week he became acutely angry, said he wanted to hit and began banging his arm on his chair because he "would never, ever hit me even if he wants to because he knows it's wrong."

3. Screw the other moms- or more diplomatically, just focus on your DD and wait for the cool people- they are out there. DS had a friend in K with some pretty major behavioral issues. My son saw a kindred spirit and I immediately befriended the mom because she's cool, quirky, I need friends who I can talk to and don't judge me or my child.

I can't say how to adjust because you will adjust again and again with new challenges. Just know that you have the strength to handle things when they come up...and a support network is important. 
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