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[quote=Anonymous]I'm 63 years old and have finally confirmed thru my neice why my older sister didn't want to have anything to do with me especially in the teen years.  All my life I've been told I was pretty.  My sister does not look like me but she is and has been very attractive.  I always felt like I had done something wrong or said something offensive. When I finally got enough nerve to ask if she has anything against me, she exploded.  I looked up to my sister - she was everything I was not - popular, smart (honor roll), on the High school dancing team, had friends, went to the prom (I didn't) got married, had children and a home.  I have suffered with depression and social anxiety since I was a teen.  I didn't have all the things my sister had.  I was depressed and withdrawn and never spoke to anyone during high school years.  It took a few years but because I started getting attention I slowly came out of that dark shell.  She has ignored me, rejected me.  But then, when she got married it all changed.  She liked me.  Then she got divorced and went back to the way she treated me - being distant.  Not wanting to talk about anything.  I wondered then....could it be she was jealous of my looks??  Yes, my neice confirmed.  At first I felt bad. Then I got mad.  You, sister, cannot put this on me!  All the years she hurt my feelings (I didn't say anything) because I was the pretty one.  Now I live alone.  No one asked me to marry them.  I have withdrawn again and cannot get my head around this.  My sister to me was the most together person I had known.  And to make matters worse, my mother had always been jealous of the relationships with my father, aunts and therapists.  Now It is consuming me.  Deliberately hurting me bringing me down all these years because I happened to look pretty???
It's just unbelievable.  When I was young, I remember looking up to her and saying "You're a genius".  She had no comment.   My "Looks" gave me confidence.  And I have always felt that's all I have.  I'm not jealous of her and never have been, never thought about it.  So unfair!
I now don't know how to handle it.  Have chosen not to do anything or say anything (she lives cross country).  [/quote]

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