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[quote=Anonymous]With my ADD, I find the hardest thing to do is make decisions. (What do I do with the piece of mail? I don't know. So it gets stuck in a pile) Then the lack of decisions clutter up my life. And every decision you make every day uses up valuable brain energy. So find ways to make routines a part of your life, so you have less decisions to make.

One simple one I made is- I park in the same row a the grocery store. I don't care if I have to walk waaaaaaay down the row. But now I don't have to remember where I parked. I know I'm down this row and I keep walking until I see my car.

One person I know, every Sunday makes the same lunch and dinner for the week. So this week, every day for lunch is a ham sandwich, with an apple and chips. (then next week it's turkey with fruit cup and popcorn, etc) And for dinner this week, every night, is baked chicken with broccoli and a wild rice.  Saves her so much time and money.

My brother's in law, have the same thing every week- Mon is turkey burgers, tues is baked chicken, weds is pasta with meat sauce, etc. Only thing that changes is Fri is take-out/delivery and Sat they go out. But it's one less thing they have to think about. And grocery shopping is very easy.

Another ADD Mom always makes appointments on Wednesdays. Even if it takes longer to see the doc/dentist/hair dresser, etc. That way she doesn't have to remember every day, do I (or the kids) have an appointment today? She just thinks on Tues night, oh do I have an appointment tomorrow. And she never schedules here kids for activities that meet on Wednesday.

Make things as visual as you can. For your son, come up with a routine (like going to bed). Then find pictures to represent it (or even take pictures of him doing it) and put it on poster board.

If you can, find someone to help you make decisions. Sometimes I just need DH to be near me as I go through clutter. Sometimes I just need to talk through whether or not I should keep it (he's learned not make the decision for me) and where I should keep it.  Sometimes I give items for him to "find a home for it". Which means he has permission to throw it away (or give it away) when I'm not looking. But I just can't be the one to do it. So in my mind, my item is happily living somewhere in my home. I just don't know where LOL. And honestly, if I don't see it, I never remember it. So find a friend to come over for 1 hour (don't declutter all at once, do it in small sprints) and sit with you while you get rid of stuff.

Like others have said--keep your life simple, simple, simple. Don't sign up for classes or volunteer stuff. Don't worry what other people think. (Who cares if your kid wears the same outfit every Monday?! Or if you wear black pants every day with a different top.) Streamline your life and make everything a routine.

You can do this![/quote]

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