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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a rising 4th and 2nd grader. Both go to an after school martial arts program instead of SACC. They like the activity and have friends there. They also each do one sport per season. We end up being out 2-4 nights per week for practices and usually have a game or practice/activity each Saturday and Sunday. We try to carpool as much as possible with others on the team. We both WOTH. I find they have made good friends with kids on their sports teams and martial arts classes over the years.  Play dates spontaneously happen with kids on the street on the weekends. Parents don't organize for the 4th graders anymore. They knock on doors and see who is available. We text for the 2nd grader to ask if they can come over. [/quote]

We live in a neighborhood with NO 4th graders -- it's all old timers and DINKs, so that organic play date won't happen unless we move.  We are several blocks and a busy street away from nearest friend[/quote]

That's more difficult. I don't enjoy arranging play dates and am usually too tired from the workweek to think ahead. I'd encourage sports and clubs since friendships seem to happen naturally.  In your situation it's fine to call, text or email other parents to ask if their kid can come over. [/quote]

Yeah we just aren't as close to them because we aren't neighbors nor run in same circles. It's been hard -- sometimes they don't even text back! Hate to have to pester people but want to do what's good for DD (and she considers their kid a friend) -- though then we wonder if the other kid maybe doesn't reciprocate friendship,  and their parents silence is an awkward way of demuring because we adults aren't really close.

Sending kids knocking on doors is much easier -- any suggestions for which activities have a good social component-- maybe we should be more strategic...[/quote]

I'm in the same boat with my 2 kids and stress over their lack of outside school friends.  Have a rising 5th and 3rd grader and I'm divorced with both of us WOH.  Kids do martial arts after school (after care) and both have one activity per season. We don't have neighborhood kids surrounding us, only retirees and do not attend the boundary school so no bus to make friends.  I frequent their school events and they have friends.  Just as my 5th grader gets older, birthday parties are less and it seems other parents are already in formed groups. I will try to make a better effort to reach out to the parents of the kids he's buddies with.  I wish this was all easier.  I grew up with close neighborhood friends and riding the bus.  You're not the only one in this boat.  [/quote]

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