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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm in the same boat as you (considering #2 and concerned about the balance), so no BTDT advice, but here's what I've been thinking about.

First, consistent sleep is key.  Our first has STTN reliably, even when sick, teething, etc., since 6 months.  This means we are well rested and have a few hours every evening.  We will prioritize getting the second onto a sleep schedule as early as feasible.  For us that means sleep training FTW.

Second, you have to have a partner who is an equal, competent parent.  Mine plays basketball twice a week now.  When we have two and I have to juggle two kids in the evening, then he can skip basketball or be responsible for clean up or next day prep once he gets home.  Whatever it is, I'm not responsible for holding down the fort while he gets his free time and leisure activities.  He also needs to be able to handle both kids competently (he's great with our one now, so no real concerns there), so I can feel comfortable taking an afternoon off on the weekend or whatever.

Lastly, I outsource or streamline as much "daily duty" stuff as possible.  We have EVERY bill on autopay, I pack a few days worth of lunches at a time, we eat a lot of leftovers and quick meals, and we have biweekly cleaners now and it's made life much easier.  We do laundry, clean the kitchen, and do surface level bathroom cleaning, but everything else is done by the cleaners.  Yes the floors are dusty by the end of the second week, but I've let that go and it's nice to mentally unburden myself from that duty.

I do struggle with being okay with spending time away from my LO.  I don't feel mom guilt, I just genuinely miss her because with work schedules and her bedtime, I just don't feel like I get enough time with her.  She's also pretty easy and pleasant for a toddler, so our time is mostly fun and not too stressful.  Maybe once we have two I'll be more stressed and happy for a break.  [/quote]

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