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[quote=Anonymous]I have UC which is relatively well-managed, and a few years after we started dating I got into a car accident that left me nearly bedridden for several months. At the time, I didn't know how much of my previous mobility I would recover. Now-DH and I had started dating over a shared love of outdoor activities, and I was heart-broken both over whether he would want to stay with me (though I pretty much knew he would) and whether it was unfair because my limitations would make it harder for him to pursue these activities. My mom, who is the last person I'd expect to be the wise one, ultimately reassured me that life is long and people change...and she was sure he loved me for much more than my physical abilities.

And sure enough, he and I were engaged a few months after that discussion and married about a year later. Many years later, the accident no longer impacts me...and unrelated to either my accident or my UC we overcame several years of infertility to have two kids.

OP, life is long, people change, and love is not rational. My uncle had very severe and aggressive UC that left him frequently ill and ultimately led to an early death. My aunt was by his side throughout, and then cared for both of my grandparents (her ILs) through their final illnesses. She maintains that knowing all of the grief and pain she would suffer losing her husband, she would marry him again in a heartbeat. She says, "When all the memories are happy, the grief is not so painful."

Maybe the one exception to this is certain types of mental illness, where it can interfere with the ability to form relationships. I know someone who broke off an engagement after her fiance started experiencing paranoid hallucinations and refused treatment. She tried for a while, but I don't think that could have ever worked.[/quote]

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