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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Apparently his parents appliances have broken and they can't afford to cover the cost. They both work. So DH sent a few hundred to his mom. We are in our late 20s early 30s. Trying to save for a house, kids, move...we both work full-time and have side gigs to bring in as much income as possible right now. His parents live way beyond their means. And his dad refuses to get a better job because its beneath him. While he works a commission based job and brings in crap. I hate that I'm so upset by this but I am. My mom raised us a single immigrant parent with no degree, and saved religiously. She would never ask her kids for money and these two college educated adults can't seem to make it work?[/quote]

The very fact that he did not tell you until after he did it, tells you he knows it was wrong of him.

And it was wrong of him. Have a nice, civil talk and set some basic rules for your money donations.  It's one thing if there is a true emergency or disability in the family (and even then there are programs that can help fund it), but not this sort of stuff or living beyond their budget. You both have a lot of goals, including saving your hard-earned money, and he needs to get his priorities right.

Any chance he is from one of those Asian or Mideast cultures where you always put Mom and Dede first, your whole life?[/quote]

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