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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Apparently his parents appliances have broken and they can't afford to cover the cost. They both work. So DH sent a few hundred to his mom. We are in our late 20s early 30s. Trying to save for a house, kids, move...we both work full-time and have side gigs to bring in as much income as possible right now. His parents live way beyond their means. And his dad refuses to get a better job because its beneath him. While he works a commission based job and brings in crap. I hate that I'm so upset by this but I am. My mom raised us a single immigrant parent with no degree, and saved religiously. She would never ask her kids for money and these two college educated adults can't seem to make it work?[/quote]

I've had similar issues with my in laws and their financially irresponsibility. You should treat this as a blessing in disguise. Why? Because it has given you the opportunity to broach this subject with your DH before the requests get outlandish (which if they don't have money for some appliances while they are both working, I doubt they have enough saved for retirement). Your family (I.e. You and your DH) must be number one. His money is your money and your money is his so you both have the right to feel comfortable with each other's financial choices. Just reading this, I suspect that since it was only a couple hundred dollars, DH didn't think it was such a big deal and that's why he didn't clear it with you. If that is the case, as a pp noted, you guys need to establish what the threshold amount is for getting permission from the other spouse. Surely, you would expect him to let you know when he spends $8 on food or something like that.

I would be curious to know what the appliances are and why they couldn't make due until they could afford to replace it. Replacing a stove quickly is one thing but getting a new dishwasher rather than hand washing is another. [/quote]

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