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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, can you ask the ex if she can chip in? I don't know how well that would go over, but I don't see a problem by offering to take them if she can help pay? I assume that will not be popular on this board. Conversely, based on what others have said, will she be including your child in activities? I think she should try to include them, no matter what, but it should go both ways.

You all are a family, not just separate families.[/quote]

Why should the mom subsidize her ex's vacation plans with his own children?

And the OP's DH is father to these children; the ex is not the mother to the 3 year old.[/quote]

Just trying to solve the issue. What if the 3 year old wanted to go on a trip with the older kids that the ex was planning? Is that child excluded? You can't be half in, according to the DCUM jury.[/quote]

The 3 year old is not part of that household and not a child or stepchild of that parent.  That is why it is different.[/quote]

By that logic, the older children are only part time, which is why I don't see a problem in asking to split the costs, if its really a problem. To be clear, I don't think its fair to go without them just to have your own time, but if its really a cost thing, and you share the responsibilities 50/50, I don't see why this would be any different. Just like if the ex wanted to take them somewhere, she could ask the same thing? [/quote]

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