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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound a bit like my sister.

She is adamant that my mother favors me, and while I'd like to have an understanding of where she's coming from, she is much too far over the top about it.

She's often playing the victim and commenting to me how much easier my life is and how things always work out for me.  Uh, no dear sister, my life has problems, I just don't complain about all of them to you.  [/quote]

If you are the one getting way more help and support from the mom, you ARE favored. Only a golden child talks this way.....[/quote]

I live 800 miles away.  "Unfavored" sister (who is a married adult) lives within 20 minutes and has her bathrooms cleaned and daily dog walks by my mother.

I'm just saying, please have some self-awareness about these things.  It's never all one person's doing.  [/quote]

OP here ... I can assure you I do not receive ANY help from my mom. My sister cannot say the same. My mom takes time off work from her job to watch my daughter's child so she can do personal activities. Meanwhile, I've asked her 2x if she could bail us out when daycare was closed and we both had can't miss meetings. Any guess what she was doing BOTH times? Watching my sister's kid. [/quote]

So I'm the 14:39 PP and this is how my mother is with my oldest and middle sisters.  She is constantly running to watch their kids, shuttle the kids from this event to that one, has upended her life on multiple occasions to be there for them, the whole nine yards while I have to BEG her to spend any time with my child and basically make sure it takes 0 effort on her part to spend time with my kid (show up on her doorstep, stay to do any and all heavy lifting so she only has to coo at the baby, then disappear the second she's done with us).  It's because she thinks we've got it together and don't need her as much while she thinks my sisters don't have their sh*t together and are dropping the ball on parenting/life.  Same with MIL/SIL, sadly.  So it really sucks for us that we basically have to struggle to get any family time for our kid with the grandmas but it's because both of our mothers think our siblings aren't capable of parenting without them.

On my good days, I can sometimes bring myself to view it as a very weird compliment but mostly, it just sucks.  [/quote]

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