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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lateness is one of my biggest pet peeves.  I wouldn't tolerate it.  If he did not seek assistance to stop this behavior, I would let him know what time I will be leaving for xyz events with the children and leave him to his own devices to get there.  I wouldn't have him be the one to take a kid someplace while I waited for the plumber.  He would wait at the house and I would get the kid to the party.[/quote]
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The fact that he manages to be on time for [important] work events is key. He can do it when he wants to, but he's choosing not to.

If it is (or you think it might be) ADHD, he can choose to be assessed and develop appropriate coping strategies (packing ahead of time, building in extra time, ...). Or he can choose not to be assessed, but then it is on him to clean up his act.

But for now, I'd recommend saying outright that no family arrangements will rely on him. When it's time to go, you go. If there's a choice about who waits at home and who takes/picks up the kid, he stays at home.
If he's late to an event, he's late alone (I am assuming you have two cars).  If these plans are more burdensome, he bears the burden, unless/until he can show that he can respect your time and that of your kids.
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