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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly? You should've dumped him at the alter.

What you describe is beyond just late. It's unreliable, disrespectful and not compatible with keeping a job, family or friends.[/quote]

This is such a bizarre response.  He is incredibly loving, and generous with money and time.  He just can't BE on time.  And he holds down a job because he is great a what he does, and doesn't miss meetings at work.

I guess I was looking for a more measured form of advice, like strategies.  Why do we always go to "He is a jerk" response?  [/quote]

If he can hold down a job and doesn't miss meetings at work, it shows that he can be on time if he HAS to and thinks the meeting or whatever is important enough.  He obviously doesn't prioritize your DD's swim meets, family vacations and activities in the "important enough to be on time" category. [/quote]

If he's capable of being on time for work, then he's capable of being on time for kid's activities and  family events. He just doesn't care or value those things enough to be on time.[/quote]

+2 My DH is always late if we're meeting up with, say, my college friends, or headed to a birthday party for one of our kids. But if we're meeting up with some of his friends or going to a work event for him, you'd better believe he's either on time or early. I've started lying about start times too, and stressed the importance of being on time and respecting my friends, etc., and he's gotten lots better. The difference, OP, is that my husband seems to care that I hate it when yours doesn't seem to respect your time or your kids. I told my husband point blank that he was being disrespectful of my time and that of my friends, and that seemed to snap him into gear. I find it strange that he's late for work though. My DH would never ever be late unless forced.  [/quote]

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