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[quote=Anonymous]I understand where you are coming from OP, as I feel the need to limit time spent with my nieces who are close in age to my boys. That said, I think others are spot on that you do so at the expense of a relationship with your brother. In our case, We want to limit time mostly because DH and I find the yelling/whining/nastiness unpleasant to be around and after a while our kids also tire of it. When they were younger, my kids would imitate their behavior, but we were able to quickly make it clear that just bc cousins acted that way didn't make it okay.

We still spend a fair amount of time together as we value the relationship, but I (1) go into into it with low expectations for pleasantness, (2) plan ways to give our family a break (keeping visits short or planning some nuclear-family-only time when we're together for long stretches), and (3) justify my behavior to them by blaming my short-comings rather than their kids or my brother's awful parenting. I tell them I need more down time, get overwhelmed with so many kids and need to keep the visit short, etc. we do spend less time with them than we used to but are still reasonably close.[/quote]

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