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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up UMC and my husband's family was solidly MC.  I lived in LA and knew celebrities and rode horses with famous people and had friends who had private jets, etc.  My family wasn't nearly as rich as many of my friends, but we certainly didn't live badly.  Sometimes I will say something, like relating a story, and it happened to have taken place in another country, or the person involved was someone whose name you would recognize, and my in-laws make fun of me.  I have learned to bite my tongue a bit, because what I perceived as a normal comment can come across as being elitist, even if I didn't mean it that way.  Over time they've learned who I am, and that I'm not defined by my past, and now we can joke about those things, but there was definitely a period during which I had to realize that some things that I would say to my friends could come across differently to people who didn't understand the world in which I grew up.  My husband's lifestyle goals are more like mine than the rest of his family, and we are now UMC (no money from my family, we just work really hard), so for us it isn't an issue, but for my in-laws it sometimes is.  [/quote]

It seems that your parents did a bad job exposing you non-super rich people when you were younger.  What adult casually lets slip a comment about their private jet trips to europe? No one under the 1% wants to hear those braggy stories about a random celebrity you were partying with in europe. This isn't about your inlaws being poor. This is about your lack of common sense about how to talk to anyone outside your own bubble.  [/quote]

PP here.  I think I did a terrible job of describing things.  I have never partied with a celebrity in Europe (nor have I ever taken a private jet to Europe - the only trips I ever got to take with my friends who had them were to places like Palm Springs - so short flights).  Here's an example of something I've said - my mother-in-law was talking about how the jellyfish were really bad last year at the Outer Banks and she was in the water and looked around and saw them everywhere.  I mentioned that the same thing had happened to me when I was snorkeling off the coast of Greece and it totally freaked me out.  I honestly mentioned Greece as a fact in the story - not because I was trying to brag about having been in Greece.  I have a touch of social awkwardness, so I often say the wrong thing, and this is just an example of me doing that.  My parents did expose me to non-super rich people, but the people I spent most of my life with were still very rich, so that was the majority of my interactions.  And my in-laws aren't poor by any definition, I said they are solidly middle class.  Anyway, it's fine if you don't want to like me or take issue with how my parents raised me.[/quote]

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