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[quote=Anonymous]Wow.  That's a lot, OP, and I'm sorry you went through it.

A couple of silver linings though:

1) You now know it's possible to enjoy a weekend with your family.  When you faced a crisis situation, that bond held tough and strong.
2) Your mother's boyfriend revealed himself as a danger while you were all around to observe it and support her.  There were probably red flags that her need for companionship kept her from seeing.

I've no doubt that Layla can take care of herself but at least she knows extended family support her.  I think the most vulnerable person in this situation is your mother.  Stay close, keep an eye on her and make sure she knows that this is NOT HER FAULT.  That's the soft spot that abusive partners come back to hit again and again.  They will also do everything they can to cut their victims off from their support systems.  That's probably why he was so uncomfortable and stand-offish while he was around your family.  Attacking one of you (again, going for soft spots like minority status of one of your family members) assures your rejection of him and he turns that into your family's rejection of his primary target - your mother.

That didn't work out for him, but he's still a threat.  Unfortunately until he finds his next victim.[/quote]

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