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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the advice, both not to panic and the more concrete ideas for re-connecting with DH.

I am the OP, and yes also the PP who admitted that I've gained weight post-baby and feel zero desire, for anyone, not just DH.

I used to be very confident, zero jealousy (to the point of having fun threesomes with DH.)   Anyway suffice to say, DH and I had a rocking sex life pre-baby.  Now I feel intensely uncomfortable about the idea that he may be attracted to or into other women but I don't want to have sex with him either.   I know this is not fair and can't continue indefinitely.

I do feel like I've lost my mojo. I feel the pressure of working fulltime and wanting to be home asap after work to be with my child for an hour or so at night.

I think first step will be to start taking an hour for myself in the evening a few times a week to work out, or even take a walk with a friend,  and try some therapy on my own.

Thanks DCUM

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From one toddler mom to another, try something. The tolls of motherhood are often devalued because many women are parents and they'e managed BUT it doesn't mean motherhood isn't terribly hard. Mothers are the last in the house to have a need met, even the basic ones like using the bathroom or drinking water. I went to therapy when I felt this way and DS was about a year. If the two of you have not recently taken the Love Languages test I would suggest that. Parenthood changes our values and it's possible you're loving each other in the wrong language. [/quote]

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