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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a good friend that recently moved and they were back in 6 months.

Reasons given:

The job environments were not interesting or challenging so both parents felt they would be professionally unfulfilled.
Didn't feel they were meeting people they could relate to.
The mom specifically said to me she was the only woman in her (large) workplace who was a working mom.  She didn't like this.  (I wouldn't either.)

This is an anonymous forum, so let's just keep it real.  In a small-town, the people are statistically less likely to be well-educated and progressive in politics, if you care about such things.  Women are less likely to work with kids, if you care about such things.  People are likely to have had their kids younger, if you care about such things.  This does not mean they are not all lovely people and it wouldn't be a great way of life.  It just is what it is.

But those are the kinds of things I would be thinking about.[/quote]

I'm the first PP who is moving this summer.  I agree with this a lot which is why we chose an area of the country where we're more likely to find like-minded people and where being a working mom is not unusual.  I can think of several of places, west coast, northeast, etc where the pace of life can be slower without having to give up the social aspects that we enjoy.[/quote]

Probably a college town, I'm guessing?  If you're willing to share, I'm interested to hear.[/quote]

You're right, a college town, which is one of the reasons we chose it.  We're moving to Corvallis, Oregon.  It'll be a big shift for us but we were also considering Vermont, Western Massachusetts, Maine, Washington State and parts of California.  For me, it being a college town is key to the kind of people we want to surround ourselves with.[/quote]

I visited my high school best friend who moved to Corvallis two years ago. It's truly a lovely, lovely place to live. Her life with her husband and four kids is pretty idyllic. Like we're talking a 5 minute walk to the kids school, and her husband's job, husband comes home for lunch, ten minute drive to the youngest child's day care, five minute walk to kids after school activities. Very welcoming religious community that has provided ample friendships. Very progressive, hippie place to be. Good food. Housing is more expensive than you might expect, given the university and tech companies, but it will be cheap compared to DC. My friend has struggled with depression there though - the lack of sunlight and the constant rain is no joke. She also very much missed her tight-knit community, as did her kids, which caused some transition issues. One kid continues to say she doesn't like it when asked about it explicity, though the others have since adjusted. Nothing is perfect, but Corvallis comes pretty close.....[/quote]

Forgot to add - I don't have kids and don't want any. Without a challenging job or the distraction of kids, there's a good chance I would be bored as fuck in Corvallis long term. It's also not diverse enough. I literally saw two black people the entire time I was there, and we stopped and had a conversation about being the only black people in Corvallis...lol...[/quote]

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