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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My biggest issue with this is that it's not: if I help my child, I'm taking an opportunity away from a poor child - the whole premise is off.  If I don't give a donation to my alma mater then my marginally qualified (because I don't think my school would actually take an unqualified child without a much larger donation than I could give) wont get in and a poor student will, it is that another slightly more qualified than my kid but still likely upper middle class child would get in.

And the unpaid internships don't really work for kids who need summers to earn money to pay for school.

So at the end of the day it isn't me as an individual who is hoarding dreams, it is a system.  We don't live in a socialist society where everyone is intended to be equal all the time and we can debate the merits of that.  But saying that helping your kid is harming a poor kid is way too simplistic and puts an onus on individuals where there really can't be one. [/quote]

Yep, there was a review of the book in ELLE magazine that captured this idea pretty well. And the author said not to use your own child as a social policy experiment (or something like that)...just that the first step is to be aware of the system and your place in it, and what you can do about it. Which requires more honest reflection than taking the idea to its least defensible conclusion (so I shouldn't support my own kid?!) and "debating" that.[/quote]

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