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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I did actually address it when it happened; I told him that hitting is unacceptable (but he already knows this- he's 7, not 2).  What I ended up doing was asking that he write an apology note, which he did. We discussed that I understood that he was upset, but that hitting is not the answer.

[b]It didn't occur to me to ask the therapist what to do, but maybe I should have. I felt like it's a parenting issue, not a counseling issue. Her job is to help him deal with the anxiety and anger so that he doesn't get to the point of hitting and my job is to deal with the consequences/aftermath if he does.  Maybe I'm wrong in this belief.[/b]

I felt judged because I was embarrassed that there'd been a buildup of his refusal to go in alone.  This isn't a pediatric practice, so there were adults waiting too.  I realize that by the very act of being in counseling, everyone there has a some sort of issue and that I was being irrational, but at the moment, I was embarrassed.

And to 9:20, no, neither my husband nor I hit/spank/swat/slap/physically discipline our children, and in return, we don't expect our children to do so to us either.[/quote]

OP, a HUGE part of working with child clients is working with their parents. I could see her not volunteering a strategy, because if that is not a regular part of the sessions it might feel like an over step to you, but if you have questions like "What do I do when he acts out because he is stressed" of course you should talk to the therapist about it. I mean, there is only so much the therapist can accomplish if there are not consistent strategies being used at home as well.

Also, it is OK to say to the therapist "I feel embarrassed that he is refusing/hitting." Actually, it's probably a good idea to bring it up. A good therapist will have ideas on how to help your son and how you can help yourself in those moments. [/quote]

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