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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to take a parenting class together. Disciplining a toddler is all about firm, consistent boundaries, and predictable responses. A toddler's job is to find your limits and if they are always changing, it's confusing and he will need to test more.

I disagree with timeout as a tool, but believe strongly in redirection. DS starts climbing on chairs? "Sit down in the chair." He doesn't sit? Pick him up. "You need to sit down or get down. You can climb on xyz."

Etc. Repeat. Short and sweet. Firm and fair. Predictable. [/quote]

I agree with this.  A lot of discipline at this age is really just cause and effect.  DC does something, Mom says "no," and DC continues with the behavior, Mom says "no," DC continues behavior, etc.  Clearly there's no reason to pay attention to mom when she says "no" because it has no effect.  The better lesson is if DC does something, Mom says "no," DC continues with the behavior and Mom redirects, leaves, etc.  so that DC learns what happens if he doesn't do what mom says.

As an aside, OP, you might want to think about the fact that you believe you should have more "say" in a situation because you're the one doing most of the work when you have admitted that your son's behavior is lacking.  Perhaps your instincts aren't right and you'd be well served by reading some parenting books about age appropriate behavior and discipline.  [/quote]
+1 to all this.

I don't understand why OP has a problem with saying "no" and sticking to it.  At 22mo your child should be able to understand the word "no".

I understand holding your child if he's out of control, but if he's touching something that he shouldn't for the 3x, how is holding him going to help?  You let  him go, then he goes right back to doing xyz that he shouldn't.  Are you going to just hold him for an hour until he gets tired of it?  Your kid sounds stubborn. He will wear you out on that type of discipline.

And agree with ^PP, don't put him into daycare until you get his behavior under control.  [/quote]

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