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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whatever you decide to do, whether it's 1-2-3 Magic (I second the recommendation) or parenting classes, you need to involve grandma, since she is the one caring for him during the work day.

I agree with those who suggest that it's time to move on from grandma's care and into a more structured preschool or daycare program that can reinforce the discipline you need to begin to implement at home.

[b]Although you like the idea of physically restraining your child as a form of discipline, this type of action will be difficult to maintain as your child grows and could create a sort of physical tension between the two of you that isn't healthy.  I agree with your husband that a time out would be a better choice.[/b][/quote]
Discipline can evolve over time, and at this age physically restraining a child in your arms is a reasonable technique. Other techniques might also be reasonable, but there's nothing wrong with what OP wants to do.

I used to hold DD in my arms and count to 60. If she had calmed down by then, she was allowed to go free. But if she hit or screamed etc during that 60, we started over. It was tough for the first few weeks, then it was easy. Now she's 3.5, and we've been using a variation on 1,2,3 Magic for a while, and it works quite well. She's extremely "high-spirited", but she's also a great listener.

OP, your problem isn't the parenting techniques you are using. Both of you sound reasonable in that regard, though your DH might have overly strict expectations of a 21 month old. Your problem is that you can't come to agreement about what to do (even if the agreement ends up being you both use different methods). Your problem also is that you resent your DH for other stuff related to childcare. This is a marriage problem, not a parenting one.[/quote]

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