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[quote=Anonymous]Men just aren't wired like we are.  They don't think or rationalize the same way we do.  Basic things (like leaving a sleeping child home alone) are ludicrous to us, but a man really might ponder the idea.  I'm sure most of us mothers have heard our DH's say we are too soft or too protective over our little ones.  A mother tends to smother and soothe and worry about everything.  We are nurturers.  Men simply aren't wired that way and lack some of the natural thoughts that we have (just like we lack some natural thoughts that they have).  As another PP said, 90% of the time, a dad's lack of assertiveness or lack of extra caution is fine and causes the child no harm.  Sometimes, you do need to intervene.

If I were you, (and I'm not sure if you are doing this), I'd stop nagging him about every little thing.  He won't parent the way you parent and he won't do things the way you do.  We as women have to accept that.  When it comes to the more serious health, welfare and safety concerns (leaving the child alone), when he asks you, or if you notice it happening, tell him it can't happen and why.  It sounds crazy, but honestly, I've learned that men really don't get it.

This brings me back to when our 5 year old DD was a baby...DH used to wipe her from back to front instead of front to back.  It was such a hard habit to break and I was so worried about DD getting infections or irritation in her privates from being wiped incorrectly.  DH really didn't think it was a big deal at all.  Eventually he got it together and stopped doing it, but it's just a testament to how different moms and dads are![/quote]

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