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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's the children's responsibility to organize and host their parents anniversary. If parents want to throw a party, I would encourage all the kids and grandkids to attend.[/quote]

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And, see, I strongly disagree that the parents should throw their own party.

My parents who are in their mid-70s and who have been married over 50 years would feel horribly awkward about hosting their own party.  I think they would think it was a horrible breach of etiquette--along the lines of a bride throwing her own bridal shower.  I absolutely won't quibble with their belief system about things like parties and the propriety of hosting a party for themselves because they are my parents and I respect that they have a different view than me about things like this.

Sometimes in families you just have to do something that others want you to do for them.  It is part of being a family.

FWIW, I think the world is getting a little too me-centric.  These are OP's parents.  Certainly they are worth the bother of planning a party for a milestone anniversary.[/quote]

My mom is anxious and a control freak. And they have a lot of money, whereas a nice party with a bar and sit down meal would not have been affordable for my brother and I. She wanted a 50th anniversary party, but wanted it her way. So, my mom planned the whole thing, and asked us to pitch in on a few things like table decorations, etc. To cover the etiquette quandary, my mom had the invitations say that my brother and I were hosting the party. That way, nobody who cares about that kind of thing realized my parents threw their own party.

I don't know what else could be done if the kids can't afford a nice party. [/quote]

I'm the 2nd back PP and love how you did this, PP!  It sounds like it worked out so that everyone was happy!  Honestly, I think that a lot of posters here would not have been as gracious about it (allowing mom to plan it but using your name) but it worked for your family and that is great![/quote]

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