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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see where you're coming from OP. It seems like all of my parents and grandparents milestone birthdays and anniversaries fall to the younger generation and I'm not sure why. My grandparents have ridiculous amounts of money, but we still have to throw 90th birthday parties for them and 40th anniversary parties and such. [/quote]
It's a way if showing appreciation for what they've done on your behalf, and also a way to honor them. I think it's appropriate.[/quote]
....especially if they've paid for college and weddings. How many opportunities do adult kids have to honor their parents and thank them for their support?[/quote]

My parents didn't pay for my college or wedding. And in my case there's a "milestone year" every other year. Last year it was my moms 60th, this year it's their 40th anniversary, my dads 65th is next year. Same for inlaws. We threw inlaws a big 35th anniversary party. Dh and I only have one sibling each so there's no one to spread these milestones around with. We make 150k, have young children and student loans. All 4 parents are retired with millions. Why should I be paying? I do honor my parents. Would love to show up on a vacation they paid for. Last family vacation to Turkey cost me 7k. [/quote]
Your idea of honoring your parents is showing up on a vacation they paid for? I honored my parents by treating them to a cruise. (They are millionnaires, but it's the thought that counts.)

My sister and I  - both single, both earning below $100k - split the cost of a "celebration dinner" for my parents' milestone. We had about 40 people at a restaurant, and the bill - with liquor - came to about $3500. If you did something similar and solit it with your two other siblings, it would be less than $1,000 each. If you had $7,000 to go to Turkey on vacation, you also have $1,000 to give your parents a lovely memory. They won't be around forever.

And as far as all these milestones - your mother's 60th, your dad's 65th, the in-laws 35th - they all pale in comparison to a 50th anniversary. I wouldn't expect adult children to pay for a party every time a parent has a year ending in 0 or 5, but the 50th.....definitely.[/quote]

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