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Reply to "Optimistic that I am going to fix my "default parent" situation"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This system works great for us. It isn't keeping score, it's designing a system that is fundamentally fair. People who accuse others of keeping score usually aren't pulling their own weight.[/quote] Why does it have to be fundamentally fair? I'm the default parent because I have the more flexible job. If I demanded DH do equal tasks, it would eat up our family weekend time. How is that fair to the family?[/quote] 50/50 tasks is not necessarily fundamental fairness. Fairness means each partner's contributions are fair in total. Some people are fine with being the default parent, others not, and it may or may not be fair depending on other factors. The point is, these systems can make the household more fair, and therefore the marriage happier, and should not be derided as mere scorekeeping. It is a way of ensuring that we treat each other well.[/quote]
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