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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Absolutely not. My DH came straight home from work while I was on leave, because I requested it and because he loves me. But he didn't REALLY understand until he took 6 weeks off after I went back to work. He was so psyched for me to get home. Until baby is sleeping through the night, you get the commute as your "me" time, and otherwise you're working for money or you're working for family. It does get easier. We both have post-work and weekend fun plenty now. (Baby is 1.) But not in those early days.

IMO, you don't need to have a big confrontation about it. Just arrange for him to have the baby for a full day (like, you're actually out of the house) so he understands the unrelenting nature of caring for a infant.[/quote]

Thank you! That's what I was hoping....I feel like if I try to explain this to him, though (that staying home on maternity leave with young infant is different than permanently being a SAHM as baby gets older), it sounds like I'm making excuses. [/quote]

Well, first of all, just because in theory you wanted to be a SAHM does not mean you can't change your mind now that you actually have a kid.  Second of all, even if you were a SAHM with an older baby/child, he STILL couldn't go out multiple nights until 8pm just for fun.  Just because you stay at home doesn't mean that you have to do 100% of the household labor.  When he's off work, he should be pitching in 50%.  Otherwise you're doing much more than your share. [/quote]

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