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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ex and I separated with DD was 7 months old, she is now 2 years old.  We've managed to both foster a strong bond with her by crafting a schedule that allows us both to spend time with her almost every day (it admittedly looks AWFUL on paper).  We both spend approximately equal time with her and manage to both see her most days by having him handle most drop offs (except for 1 day) and I handle pick up from daycare (again, except for 1 day).

We split weekends. Week 1, she's with me Friday night to Saturday evening, and with dad Saturday evening to Monday morning.  Week 2, she's with dad Friday night to Saturday evening, and me from Saturday night to Sunday evening.  She always spends Sunday night and Tuesday night with dad.  This works because we live very close (2 miles apart) and have no problem spending time together.  The longest span of time I don't see her is when he has her Saturday night, so I go Saturday evening to Monday evening without seeing her.  Occasionally, we do a family dinner on those Sundays so I can see her or we'll do a family outing to the zoo or something.  When we each travel with or without her, we make sure the other can call every other day (at least) or get some pictures/video daily; maintaining contact and fostering the relationship is important to us.

It's a lot of back and forth, but daycare allows for a good transition buffer where she's only being handed off between us on weekends and most days it's just a change in who picks her up and which house she's going to.  She seems to understand 'mommy's house' and 'daddy's house' and knows that her fish live at mommy's and her dog is at daddy's.  She doesn't seem thrown or confused by the idea that she left daddy's house in the morning, but goes back to Mommy's in the evening.  It's just part of her routine.

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thanks for this ... I was considering trying for a similar custody schedule but I thought it seemed nuts. Good to know it's worked for someone. I would also plan to live very close by which is obviously key. but I do wonder how well it works with older kids and when/if exes remarry and have more kids. [/quote]

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