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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I know she needs to make friends and see a therapist. She is not going to do either of these things, despite anything I do or say.

I guess what I'm really trying to ask is how do I make my own peace with this. I feel like a crappy daughter right now.[/quote]

My parents are in a similar situation. They are several years older than your mom. What I've realized is that they did not plan well for the retirement and senior years. You know how some older people purchase condos in Florida in advance or cultivate hobbies or even plan big trips with friends? Well, my parents retired and expected my siblings and I would literally hand them a purpose, i.e. live close by and have grandchildren for them to babysit every day. Well, one sibling never married and had kids and I live hours away with kids.

Now, things are changing around them. They live in the same house they've lived in for 40 years and don't know where to move. Their neighborhood is changing, people are moving away and unfortunately, they've let ties with old friends and cousins fall away so they don't have as many friends as they used to (they can be pretty miserable, judgmental people, which my sense is, has chased a lot of old friends away for good).

I've felt bad for them but I've also learned from them. If you have the means, plan for retirement. It's not the 1800s. People live past 60 and they often do very well with exercise, good food and a little medication. Don't spend your final years miserable about what could have been or what you think the world owes you (and don't get stuck on cable news, especially on a beautiful day).[/quote]

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