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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a divorced mom, I almost exclusively date single dads.  Guys without kids just don't get it.  And that's ok.  I didn't get it before I had kids either.  If you prefer the spontaneity of your child free life, you probably want to steer clear of women with kids, at least ones in elementary school.  [/quote]

Was just having this same conversation with a friend.  She says rarely dates someone that has never been married and has no kids because they don't get the scheduling thing.  That said, I have several friends that did end up with guys that have never been married and have no kids.  [b]But in those cases the guy was a co-worker (so there was time to get to know each other during the workday) and/or the person had true 50% custody with a set schedule p,us family in the area to help.
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Agree wth everyone else that it is okay to break up, just don't ghost.  Being able to plan spontaneous outings is part of who you are and what you enjoy so you need someone that can do the same.[/quote]

I think this key both parties have to be willing to make the relationship work. Relationships take time and getting to know someone assuming your in for something serious and not just sex you should be wanting to get to know the person who will potentially spending time with your kids.
This is true even if the person you choose to date has kids, this is why so many people move in with the new spouse and are so shocked to find out they aren't compatible and  they have different parenting styles because they never spent any real time together, and they thought it was all good "because the scheduling thing worked out"
It's also  sad how many people take it as a negative  if their bf/gf  wants to spend time with them.  They really aren't being selfish.
But you are if you put forth you are looking for a relationship, but refuse to spend any time with that person.  Be honest.[/quote]

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