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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Think about whether it is really for the kids or is it because you want to present a facade of a happy divorced family.  Little kids will want you both there, but bigger kids may find it awkward and if it is fake, will see through it.[/quote]

+1.  Also, for all kids, teaching them that what is right is to present a facade of happiness is not exactly teaching them to have healthy relationships.

Teaching them to treat others with a basic level of respect?  OK.

Teaching them to stuff your feelings down about something or so lack boundaries that you are doing something you are not comfortable with or which requires really inequitable inputs?  Not OK.  [/quote]

I actually think by avoiding your ex at all cost shows your kids you can't get over stuff. Maybe you can't and that is who you are, but it is not necessarily better to hold grudges, resentment and anger.

Some people actually move on so much they can be around their ex and it does not affect them.

Some people are happy, so it is not a facade. [/quote]

Nobody is saying to avoid at all costs.  Just don't drag everyone through a dog and pony show if they don't actually want it, and to make sure you're doing it for the right reasons.[/quote]

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