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[quote=Anonymous]My kids are 4.75 years apart. Like a previous poster it was great because she simply didn't need constant and immediate assistance and was completely able to understand that I needed to do something for the baby and she was content t watch a show or run around helping me.

We purposefully had them far apart for many reasons, not the least of which was my first was a trying baby -colic, reflux, no more than 2 hours of sleep at a time until 11 months, etc. I had to be in a place where I knew I could handle that again if the second was the same way and it took me a while to get there.

Now, like another PP, there's a 5 year gap between me and my brother. We were never close, because like the PP we were never at the same stage of life. I was in Kindergarten and he was an infant. I was 13 and into music and hanging out with friends and he was 8 and playing Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. And then personalities. I'm an unathletic nerdy bookworm, he's an athletic popular partier. Even as adults we just don't see eye to eye. I think he's an irresponsible jerk who treats our aging parents like crap and he thinks I'm a controlling know it all. There's nothing our parents could have done to bridge the personality gap, but I don't think that's unique to the age gap. Having siblings does not ensure you have a friend and ally for life.

I also find it difficult in other ways, as I know my parents did, evidenced by say my dad taking me to Disney at 6 while my mom stayed home with my infant brother. We're finding ourselves similarly situated in that the interests of a sub 2 year old versus an almost 7 year old do not coincide and being back in the world of naps with the little one is limiting for the older one. I also personally don't like crossing time zones with still napping children (having done it 2x with the first one and both times being a disaster not to mention the gear for a little one is overwhelming) so that's limiting given our family lives in CA. So I'm sending my husband and the oldest this summer while I stay home with the youngest. [/quote]

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