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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.

I see "we" as tacky. There was never a "them" to begin with. She's trying to force some semblance of amicability but it's far from the reality.

She quit her job once the child support was established. Both her kids are in school FT and they have split custody. He pays child support and has an ad-hoc schedule for visits due to his work.. She is trying to convince him to quit his job so that he can be around the child more often (he travels extensively for work and spends time between three states.)

What he's doing already isn't enough for her. I think it's a little ridiculous he's paying her an excess of $4200/month plus pays for her health insurance and visiting when he can for an arrangement he didn't ask for. Yet she continues to blast him but play nice when he plays by her rules. [/quote]

No, "we" is not tacky.  "We" means that he and she contributed gametes to create the child, not that they have an emotional bond that makes them a couple.  If he did not want to be a biological father, he could have worn a condom.  And FYI, I'm a guy.  I made that acknowledgement when I was younger.  I wore the condom so that I would not become a father before I was ready to become one.  This is his penance for being careless when he was younger.  He has to admit that he's the biological father of the child and she gets to refer to them both as the biological parents of the child whether or not they have any emotional or legal attachment.

She's the mother of two children.  If she wanted to work, she would have to pay childcare for her children.  If her salary prior to quitting was less than or just barely covering childcare (often the case) for two children, then it could have just been practical to quit her job and be a SAH mom to her children.[/quote]

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