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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds as if you have no bond with your daughter and she is  aware of this and thus constantly afraid of abandonement. Is there any chance another family member, such as a grandparents, has bonded and is interested in taking her?
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This.  I am the mom to a 9 year old overseas adopted child (brought home at 9 months).  The first months were intense in that DD did not want to be separated from me AT ALL.  These months are so important to establish a bond...you just have to drop everything and just hold your child.  I had to get one of those ergo baby carriers and just carry her all the time...while cleaning, cooking, etc.  She loved being close to me and if I put her down, she would start to cry right away.  OP, did you encounter this, and how did you handle this?

This was completely different from what I experienced from my first biological DD, who I could easily just set down while I went about my work at the age of 4 months.

Even today, I still sense a tiny bit of insecurity from her, but she is by and large a very happy, outgoing, loving, empathetic, and bright child.  I couldn't imagine how she would be if I just let her sit in her Exersaucer while I went on about my work...she would probably be having these types of problems too.

OP, I would strongly suggest you find a therapist that is experienced with adopted kids.  There is an organization called CASE that can hook you up with someone http://adoptionsupport.org/counseling-services/.  They have an extensive list of therapists especially trained in issues surrounding adoption.  Good luck.
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