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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just to preface this, I'm a liberal feminist and most of my friends identify as the same. That being said, I really just don't understand this new uptick in being "non binary". I think it certainly exists, but probably not in the droves of people who are claiming it. I can't ask any of my friends about this because they would say I'm terrible for having these thoughts. I think that people should be able to decide what gender/sexuality they prefer but when people elect to be neither gender it just gets messy from a logistical standpoint and then someone is always offended. I have a friend from high school who very publicly on fb declared that she is non binary and will not be going by her "dead name" and only wants "they/them" pronouns. Okay, I can respect that. However I have other non b friends who say that it is offensive to assign them a gender or misgender them behind their back when referrring to them to other people. This is where it's weird for me. For example, when I refer to my friend when talking to my mom, I really don't want to explain the complexity of this friend's gender (or lack of) so I still refer to them as "her". Obviously I feel like a shitty person for all of this and I guess I'm also kinda confused??[/quote] I agree that the people you are talking about are not your friends if you don't feel free to talk about this topic with them. You are correct that people can decide to be whatever they want to be (he, she, or neither. Or zebra, if they please). I think it is totally obnoxious of them to demand from you to call he or she them (either in their presence or behind their backs). You are who you are. Their gender/sexuality choice shall have no effect on your education, use of the language and on who you are. I would not even bother my mom with this. And the fact that you say it makes you feel like a shitty person indicates that you are not 100% comfortable with what you are trying to do. [/quote]
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