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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you're being way too hard on his family if the reason his family was struggling at the time was the illness and *death* of a parent.  It's not like they were choosing to be deliberately reckless.  Bad things happen and it sounds like the road for them was very rough for a while but they got through it.  As a parent yourself now, can't you summon a little compassion and sympathy to the surviving parent for having had to face the loss of their spouse and having to support a family alone?

Your DH could've taken full responsiblity for financing his own education regardless of his family's issues, but then he had you to lean on and he did.  Is he a good husband and provider for your family now?  Is he a hard worker and has his income brought enough compensation for your investment in him?  Those would and should be your rewards for having invested in him.  Or are your family finances shaky and are you looking for reimbursement for your DH's education?  If so, that's an issue you need to discuss and work out with your DH first.

I think the other sibling and family battles are his to work through and not yours, but you seem to have taken on the job. Let go. 
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We do OK. I will always be the main breadwinner, but he has a good job and is a wonderful father.

Frankly, I think his family was always sort of a mess and when I met them my every instinct was to run. I stayed because I loved DH and because I thought I should have compassion for the situation. But the way resentment for the way these people have treated me has pushed out all the compassion.

I have to laugh because DHs siblings spouses basically think I am a selfish bitch. I am really not. But this is the only way I can deal with being around these people.[/quote]

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