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[quote=Anonymous]A lot of my SAHM friends had a cleaning lady come weekly or every-other-week to handle the major cleaning tasks. I don't think that's unusual. But it also seems like you are going into parenting with a very rigid idea of how things should be and already have your hackles up about what's ok for you to do vs. not in order to preserve your equal status in your relationship. That, not a housekeeper, is IMO setting you up for trouble. Sure, get a housekeeper and discuss plans with DH but prepared to be flexible. Also, to keep up the equal partnership with DH, I'd recommend letting him be the one in charge of some aspect of childcare. In our family, DH did baths from day 1. That was his time with the kids and the area in which he got to be the expert. I think it helped keep us from falling into an assumption that since I was a SAHM that all parenting duties were mine.[/quote]
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