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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

The post has been deleted.  She was not tagged because I would never do that, and she never goes on FB.

The issue here is that to get my password, she would have had to get into my computer, open my password file, and take a screenshot of it.  Or she must have found the hard copy of that doc I have in the back of a cabinet.  This is a bigger violation of trust than posting a congratulatory pic that no one in her life will ever see.  If she got my FB pwd then she had access to all kinds of other info.

She also has a history of "reporting" my activities and behavior to my ex, including pictures taken without my knowledge and and secretly recorded conversations.

This is just the last straw and in all honesty there's a pretty involved back story that is too long to relate here.

Am I out of line to really be angry over this incident alone?  [/quote]

This.

You should be mad at yourself for having your passwords accessible. [/quote]

If you want your DD to respect your privacy, your things, and you, you must model those behaviors. Do you understand what that means? It means YOU must respect HER privacy, HER things, and HER. There is only one acceptable reason to disrespect the privacy, belongings, and person of a teenager, and that's when health or safety is involved. PERIOD.

Seriously, where do you get the balls to be angry with her about invading YOUR privacy?

Here is what you do now. You sit your DD down and say: "I need to apologize to you. I've done a lot of thinking, and I realize what a terrible mistake it has been to ignore your wishes about on-line privacy. Of course it is your right not to share things on-line if you don't want to, and actually, when I think about, I realize how smart you are to be concerned about on-line privacy. It's a good thing to be careful about. But even though I think sharing some good news or a pic occasionally is okay, if it's not okay with you, I need to respect that. I haven't been listening, and I'm really sorry. I promise that from now on, I will share nothing about you or post any pictures of you unless i get your permission first."

That is IT. Do not say anything about her deleting your post, because you have zero moral ground to stand on here. Without saying a word to her, change your passwords and do whatever else you need to do to protect your private things and information.

Then start acting like a person she can respect. You and your XW appear to be doing exactly the opposite.

Model the behavior you want to see. You want to be treated well? Then treat her well. She is a PERSON. Treat her like one.

Honestly, OP, if you were standing in front of me, I'd whack you on the head to knock some sense in.[/quote][/quote]

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