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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You again. Same advice as the last 15 posts: leave.[/quote]

Maybe you should leave DCUM. Not everyone follows thread by thread and here are many more readers and visitors than commenters.[/quote]

NP. To be fair, regulars here have seen what appears to be this same woman posting this exact same issue regularly, and lots of people have tried to help. She always ignores everything and then comes back like a broken record. [/quote]

That's how victims of abuse are. Their thoughts about the situation are complex: self doubt, stigma of broken marriage, love/hope that he will be more like his old nice self, and so on. Leaving is a process. And abuse victims often leave several times, going back.  We should be supportive during every step of that process.[/quote]

I know all too well what it's like to live in an abusive situation. It does take a lot of tries to get yourself together enough to act. However, maybe her husband is just a garden-variety ass who does what cheaters often do--gaslighting, acting selfish and critical, and picking fights. He's over her. He doesn't feel like being pleasant to her. That doesn't make him an abuser. It makes him a jerk. She's not scared or beaten down, she's unhappy and overwhelmed. There's a difference, believe me. And she's been waffling forever about it. I think people became exasperated after a while, because she posts like this is her personal blog and she has no real interest in doing anything about the situation. I wish her the best and hope she's able to find support and get her act together. [/quote]

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